Sex Therapy, Intimacy Counselling, Sexuality Education

Services

 

Before we bSex Therapyegin, I understand that talking about sex and intimacy can be difficult and feel uncomfortable. Most people mention they feel nervous before the session begins or feel uncertain about sex therapy altogether. To help lift some of these feelings, I offer every person a phone call greeting so that you can decide whether my services are appropriate and feels right for you. If not, I’d be glad to provide you with referrals. Your concern matters most.”

Individual and Relationship Sex Therapy, Counselling, and Consultation

Dr. Malone offers solutions focused sex therapy, counselling, and consultation to individuals, couples and diverse relationships. Sometimes one session is all that’s necessary. Depending on your concerns, additional sessions may be needed. Sessions can be booked at a minimum of 1-hour in length.

Using a client-centred approach, a tailored and unique combination of the following may be incorporated:

  • Identifying and re-framing negative thought patterns
  • Specific behavioral suggestions and exercises
  • Empathic and mindfulness-based practices
  • Harm reduction strategies
  • Resources, referrals and co-therapy

 

For individuals who are either single, not committed, or not in a committed relationship

Dr. Malone has advised, offered insight, and provided feedback to individuals on a number of issues including performance anxiety, sexual identity, gender identity, sexual ambivalence, intimacy concerns, and sexual skills. You may have a question and not feel comfortable asking your friends, doctor, or another therapist. Google is a great source of information but how do you know what is legitimate? Or you may be overwhelmed with too much information. Know that these issues are common.

Common questions and discussions have included:

  • Help! I’m experiencing ______ (ex. painful sex/erectile dysfunction/orgasm issues/performance anxiety).
  • Is it normal to think/feel/fantasize about ________?
  • I don’t know if I’m satisfying my partner by _______. How can I tell if I’m doing this right?
  • I feel socially awkward and anxious. I don’t know how to engage. I’m scared that I won’t be able to function.
  • I’m sexually turn on by_____. I’m attracted to ______. Now what do I do?
  • I feel ashamed about _____.
  • I feel out of control. I have cheated/crossed or “massaged” the boundaries. I don’t know who to turn to and I want to talk about this.
  • I’m lost and feel disempowered. I feel alone (in my relationship) / lonely that I haven’t found a partner.

 

For couples or those in a relationship

Dr. Malone offers intimacy and sex therapy, insight and feedback to those in a relationship. Did you know that studies have shown that committed long-term couples finally see a therapist after 6+ years of enduring issues within their relationship? Even so, change is possible where countless of couples have renewed their intimacy towards each other. When Dr. Malone sees either you, or you and your partner, a collaborative process will begin that aims to envision or re-envision your relationship. Issues that have been addressed have included:

    • Low to no desire / orgasm issues / erectile issues
    • Performance anxiety
    • Lack of intimacy, touching, sex
    • Trust and rebuilding trust
    • Not knowing how to discuss sex, wants and desires
    • Illness, injury or stress having negative affects on the relationship
    • Guessing what the partner needs, wants and desires
    • Opening up the relationship to a different relationship configuration or dynamic
    • Being in an affair, texting or sexting others
Couple’s intimacy and sex “check-up” session

Why wait until there’s a problem in your relationship before you decide to see a professional? Relationship and sexual health are just as important as your physical health. More couples are booking “check-up” sessions with Dr. Malone to “check-in”. These single sessions are informative and are designed to unveil greater insight, considerations, and to broaden ways to be even more intimately and sexually connected. It’s advised to book either a 1.5 or 2 hour session to maximize your time. Issues in a check-up session have included:

  • “Is our communication at a good place? How can we be better?”
  • “Is our sexual relationship on a healthy pathway?”
  • “How do we discover those erotic spots on our partner’s body with comfort?”
  • “How can we heighten the experience of orgasm?”
  • “How can we adapt to the “new normal” since _____ happened?”
  • “How can I trust my partner after _______?”
  • “How can we trust each other when ______?”
  • “We want to learn about _______.”

 


Buyer beware: A sexologist is a human sexuality and sex behavioral specialist. A sexologist may not be a ‘certified sexologist’. A certified sexologist has completed a minimum 500 hundred hours of formal training in human sexuality, including supervision. A sexologist with a Masters or Doctorate has completed 3000+ hours of formal training. A sexologist views human sexuality from a multi-disciplinary, systemic, and multi-faceted perspective. Depending on your concern, a collaborative team approach (that may include your healthcare provider and/or mental health therapist) may be recommended.

When someone refers to themselves as a sexologist, sex therapist, sex expert, or relationship expert, ask if they’re certified and check their credentialing and professional bodies, memberships, and verify their formal training – including ongoing training and updating.


 

When should I/we see a sex therapist?

Sex therapy, counselling, or a consultation is encouraged when you are experiencing uncertainty, concerns, or distress on a sexual, gender, or sexual health matter. Ignoring it, feeling that the issue may simply disappear, or guessing answers by online articles may one way of addressing the matter, however the concern may re-appear in different ways. While online support is encouraged, you may benefit from insight that is specific to your unique circumstances.

“This is so difficult and uncomfortable to discuss.”

It certainly can be difficult and uncomfortable to discuss. Rest assured that everything said will not be met by negative reaction, disgust, or judgment and that you will be treated with dignity and respect. While it’s important and encouraged that you talk openly and honestly about all aspects of your sexuality, Dr. Malone strives to create a safe, comfortable, and sex-positive environment for you to work through you sexual concerns.